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Kimber Dutton's avatar

I'm new to substack, and am shocked and amazed by the beautiful writing I'm finding here. There are people like me who write about REAL things here. I'm currently feeling the pain of self love and this is the first time I've ever heard anyone express it like that. Thank you for seeing yourself so clearly that others can see themselves through you ♥️

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Briana Soler's avatar

Thank you so much for reading!! Substack is such a great space for so many writers!! I’m glad you found yourself here! And. Cheers to the self love journey, a hard but worthy one 🫶🏼

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amy's avatar

'But if I continue to silence myself, my emotions, my wants and needs, and my feelings, what will become of me? Will I vanish into thin air or will I erupt?' - wow, a really powerful quote

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Briana Soler's avatar

Thank you!!

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Coffee Times's avatar

A powerful message about facing the pain, looking at yourself, and embracing the emotions and experiences that have shaped you. The call to confront these aspects rather than avoid them resonates with the idea that healing and self-love require acknowledging the whole self. Thank you for sharing your thoughts and insights.

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Briana Soler's avatar

Thank you so much for your kind words 🥺🫶🏼

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Chelsea's avatar

I’m 27 and watching Daria for the first time ever. I’m just a few episodes in, and the “la-la la la-la” transitions are so hauntingly reminiscent of Killing Eve; somehow they feel connected. I’ll probably be thinking about Killing Eve forever.

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Briana Soler's avatar

lol!! Omg I need to rewatch Daria it’s been so long!

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haley larsen, phd's avatar

I love that last question. My therapist posed a similar question to me a few years ago. I showed up to a session all bleary eyed and confused about why it hurt so bad to set boundaries and put myself first. And she said: “well, if it’ll hurt either way, why not try this new way a little longer?” I think sometimes it hurts because it is new, and so it’s like a growing pain. Julian Barnes has a beautiful line, where he writes: “it hurts as much as it is worth.” Maybe that’s how much your self is worth loving--the hurt is a sign of how much good is on the other side of that hurt.

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Briana Soler's avatar

Ooooof yes yes yes!! Love this. (Also sorry for the late af response!!)

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Amani Hope's avatar

That line in killing eve was so good

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Briana Soler's avatar

Truly lol

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Katherine's avatar

this is so raw, I wanna reread this every quarter

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Briana Soler's avatar

🥺🫶🏼

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Hayden Hamilton's avatar

incredible

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